My road-stops to fulfillment

imageRemember how in Star Trek, the older Mr Spock visits his younger version and advises him? That is a luxury not afforded us humans, but if it were, I would go back to myself, maybe forty years, and give a list of ideals. Maybe I might have applied them. Anyway, here they are, for the benefit of those who are curious about such a list.

1. Vision, have a personal goal

If you get in a car and drive without knowing where you are going, you will waste a lot of fuel and time. Know the lighthouse in the far distance, see it, desire it and then let Allah guide you there. Who knows, you might even get there.

2. A value system, be honest to yourself

There is no point in living your one and only life, being someone else. Why exactly are you acting your way through life? So, when you are yourself, then you must have a set of values. Apply them. They are driven by your belief, which then drives your vision. To get to that vision, you need your value system. Hopefully, you will be an optimistic person and have a great value system.

3. Stand by your principles, but it does not have to be a hydrogen bomb decision

Through life you will have to stand behind your principles, which are set by your value system. But, here is a secret. It does not mean that you are forever fighting and beating people. Use the art of persuasion, a sweet mind and tongue. A hydrogen bomb decision is very rare. It should not happen, Allah provides an honest way out, if you desire it.

4. Opportunities are few! Take risks, but don’t need to be rash

Every now and then an opportunity will come whistling by. Do not avoid them. Look them in the eye. Be calm and do not rush. If you absolutely cannot, then let them go. There will be others. But mostly, you will prevail and you should look at it as an adventure and take the risk. A hit rate of 50 per cent is a good figure for a benchmark.

image5. Have fun

This is an absolute must. Life will be very boring and serious otherwise. Even take tough assignments as an adventure and laugh your way through. You can always move on to your next opportunity and its not the end of the world.

6. Have some passions

Definitely! Otherwise one becomes a boring fuddy-duddy. Like your sports, or music or outdoors. Have something to discuss with people other than your work. Please!

7. Don’t take yourself too seriously, better still laugh at yourself

As we become senior, we begin to believe we are a gift to mankind. You are just one breath away from extinction. So chill and laugh. Be human to everyone, they will actually like you. Otherwise in their secret chamber, everytime they see you, they will see an evil looking gorilla. You are better looking than that, so just laugh.

8. Life is not about yourself, think of others

Always think of the effects of your actions. There are people connected to your decisions. They are human. So behave like a human and look after them. Do not be a machine, especially a corporate one.

9. Give time to family and friends, before its too late

My own biggest failure and not surprisingly many CEOs say the same. Travel is the biggest culprit. When your children have stepped out of the door and gone to live life, then its too late to reverse the decision. Travel less; leave work behind when you come home. You can pick it up tomorrow again.

10. Give back as much as you can, you will be happy and content

In the end this world does not belong to us. Its leant to us, to carry to the next generation. Leave much of yourself in this world. Especially in the hearts and minds of people. You will be happier and life will be better fulfilled, based on the goodwill of others.

We all experiment and make errors, but I do wish someone, somewhere had taken a younger me and told me these things. Life would have been easier. In the end we all eventually find our path and culmination, regardless.

*the pictures are from dreamstime.com

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About sarfarazar
I have been lucky! A long career with large scale organisations and some acclaim. Also, took time off to write, mentor and do some education and social development projects. I continue to mentor and help younger people in life. Inshallah, hope to write on various subjects in my blog.

11 Responses to My road-stops to fulfillment

  1. aDIL says:

    Congratulations on leaving an ever lasting legacy in the form of Engro foods behind for future generations of Pakistanis to be proud of !!

    As a corporate professional even I struggle at times to truly understand what I do day in and out. It seems that it is all about more more and more at the end of the day in one form or the other. What you have said above is very simple and all deep down we probably understand it but the implementation is the difficult part. Like we know lying, stealing , hurting others is wrong and still we do it.

    All the best for your future endeavors.

  2. Arshad Farooq Bajwa says:

    One of the few excellent write ups. At some stage I thought I was reading Steve Jobs. All the best sir.

    • sarfarazar says:

      Thank you. 🙂 needless to say, I have no pretensions of being iconic. Just passing on what I think and leave others to make use of it, if they wish.

  3. Rafia Farooqui says:

    Thank you for the list, Sir!

  4. AJK says:

    AOA. This post took me to the first time i met you, at Orientation program of Engro back in 2005 or 06 (Avari Towers – Khi). Your passion, the first advertisement of Olpers and depth of your knowledge – all impressed us youngsters alot. Now after 10 yrs, as i transform from a novice to a mid career professional, you’re progressing from wisdom to enlightenment.
    Point#04 caught my eye. Opportunities are few! Take risks, but don’t need to be rash. Can you share your own “connecting the dots in SAR’s career – looking behind perspective”. It can be a good guide on our journeys ahead…

    Thanks & Best regards;
    AJK

    • sarfarazar says:

      I did exactly what I have advised. Just to add on, I have also always done the Istikhara, but that is simply my belief factor. When i say opportunities, I mean good solid offers, not speculative queries. If you are interested, just check my career on LinkedIn. It will be there under my profile.Don’t really like to talk too much on my own career.

  5. Muhammad says:

    Thank you for a marvelous and insightful article.

    Would you like to say something on the ‘trade-offs” one has to make throughout his life and how to set priorities in a world, getting fiercely competitive & demanding every day. Living a balanced life seems an illusion to me. Sometimes I wonder if I am making well-justified sacrifices to attain worthy goals.

    • sarfarazar says:

      Nothing is more worthy than friends and family. Not sure what qualifies as success more than being a good friend and father. My whole write up is saying do good, live a life of principle and there is a way to do it without killing yourself. Not sure if I have answered your question 😮

  6. shabbir malik says:

    Thanks for sharing this

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