How to live Life

imageNowadays, such clever young people, enter the daily operations of this world. The current curriculum in universities is so advanced, I could only dream about this level in my college days. Education has moved along at a smart pace these past decades and today the science of teaching is just phenomenal. Younger people have analytical skills, work smart, have a way of communicating, own a vision, plan their life goals, are articulate, driven and success agents.

Are we then reaching an era of mankind, when we produce the best of the best, see skills maximisation and benefit all mankind? I would say ‘Yes’ in general commercial terms, considering the high amount of wealth which is owned by the young. But does this bode well for humanity as a whole? Sadly the answer would be an emphatic ‘No’.

During my career in the last decade, I have met many school leavers. They show all the competencies, which will make them great deliverers of material success. But, unfortunately, very few are well-rounded humans, which one would desire in future leaders. These young aspiring managers, entrepreneurs, sports people, artists and lawyers all miss basic soft traits of humanity. Education is delivering efficiency and drive, but not people who will be like Martin Luther King, Mandela or Jinnah. Leaders who care and have a larger purpose in life, which goes beyond materialism.

No wonder we have this huge drive in the world, to deliver growth and profits. Everything is measured in commercial terms. Does not matter, what we have destroyed along the way or the necks we have stepped on. Just look around. Stock markets reign and humans are servants to their whims. Presently, with negativity prevailing in China, declining commodities and stress on large banks, every one is jittery and ready to sell off. Our lives revolve around this phenomenon. Just watch television and that is what you hear. CNN! BBC! Fox! Sky! All of them. Is this what we humans have come to be? There are other issues , like the environment is destroyed; mankind stands at the edge of a precipice. There are over a billion people who suffer from malnutrition. Wealth belongs to less than 1% and 99% other humans suffer. There is death, pillage, and family trauma. So many divorces, so many one parent families. But unfortunately, economics is just more important and reigns supreme. Success and power are measured in economic impact. Reality is, we cannot carry our wealth, position or fame to our graves.

Why would this be? How is it that such efficient human machinery is being delivered, yet cannot work for humanity. My analysis is that basic, simple human stuff is not being taught at any level. Inside our homes, the TV and Internet reign supreme. In the institutions, teaching hard-nosed success takes over and playgrounds, (great teaching places) are deserted the world over. We are never taught the things which matter…how time will fly by, we will become old; our positions are temporary, so how to treat present success; how to treat those less fortunate, not to think ourselves superior to others; as we grow old we shall change, how to handle this with grace; how to fail and learn from it; how to smile through the good and bad, to be patient and thankful. All this amounts to simply the art of ‘how to live life’.

When we are not taught all this, in home, in institutions and outside, then we are producing soulless machinery, which thinks efficiency will lead to success. What an absolute failure of the system. Thus, we are, what we are today.

Parents, urgently need to start this ‘tarbiat‘ at home and then demand it from schools. We should shut the TV, computer and cell phone down for several hours every day, so that the old connection and real conversation returns. Also we have to inculcate skills and feelings which need not just deliver commerce. If we shun some of our present day habits and relearn our millennia old values, then very soon, we will reverse our descent into this hell and turn the tide. We will become humans once more, one humanity and one society.


About sarfarazar
I have been lucky! A long career with large scale organisations and some acclaim. Also, took time off to write, mentor and do some education and social development projects. I continue to mentor and help younger people in life. Inshallah, hope to write on various subjects in my blog.

10 Responses to How to live Life

  1. Mudassir Naeem says:

    what an inspiring thought! the life has a larger purpose than mere economic gains. you have always stressed on it in your live sessions too. may Allah bless you sir. Ameen

  2. Sikandar SULTAN says:

    Kindly write on educational reforms , as the current system is purely based on fulfilling the needs of industry and not about exploration and creativity.

  3. Bushra Naeem says:

    Can’t see the tides turning around in near future.If you try to talk this out with a youngster he/she will tell you it is 2016, go get a life and move on :p.
    Talking about Tarbiah the major oxygen supply these days is WiFi.Here is what parents can do either stop paying their internet bills or set up the main connection in their rooms and most importantly learn how to change wifi passwords.I hope that works!

    • sarfarazar says:

      Drastic but effective I suppose…:)
      I saw it recommended on an internet site that the computer should be in the living room. But due to mobile access this is not effective anymore.
      Btw the FBI advice on social connectivity suggests that for teenagers this is fraught with dangers due to predators.

      • Bushra Naeem says:

        Yeah totally effective :p
        Young parents are to be blamed as they themselves are into technology they do not mind handing over their one year old an Ipad.It is easier for them to handle kids this way I guess they do not have to run after them to feed them.Just hand them the Ipad/Tablets and make them sit and eat.
        If you are introducing your kids to technology at such a young age there is hardly anything you can do to stop them later on.And yes many renowned schools have added tablets to the list to be given along with stationery to kids.Alas! There is no escape.

  4. erumskhan says:

    What we are ‘not’ teaching is compassion and acceptance … Career and ambition are overrated if you don’t show them pleasure must be derived from giving rather than accumulating.

  5. Mir M Ali says:

    Sarfaraz sb what a beautiful piece you wrote and very pertinent at this time. we have to be humans and act as humans too first. The onus is on parents and I have experienced that if you act properly the response from youth is pretty positive. If you do our own soul searching and correct ourselves and as you rightly mentioned start ‘tarbiah’ from home things would be much better Inshallah. It is very easy to get lost in the glitter of the world so introspection regularly and pondering over greater purpose of life can help us back on track. We should use the technology in more positive way. Using harsh regimental policies with youth may back fire and make them more stubborn and non receptive.

    BTW in last six months i have heard about many young deaths taking place the reason maybe something you also mentioned in the blog.

  6. Amazing point here. We must shut down gadgets and return to an actual conversation. We run the risk of producing just robots for many generations to come if we don’t act on it now. The corporates need money makers. No morals, no ethics required. That is our ideal candidate. The ruthless, mean, killing machine.

    You are right, there is an urgent need for tarbiat. All of us should practice leaving gadgets atleast for 3-4 hours a day take the kids to an outdoor location and spend real time with them. Teach them the good and the bad, the basic ethics. Teach them how to ‘care’ and things that are more important in life then just money.

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